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MBTI: How Each Type Unconsciously Annoys You

After the descriptions of 16 MBTI-based fictional characters and one urge desire to share some possible plots that MARVEL should adapt to the cinematic universe (which is highly impossible), I decided to write another MBTI-related post which is as stereotypical, but somehow true, as usual.


Some couples of weeks ago, I wrote how the types react when they meet, accidentally or purposefully, someone they don’t like. This post will tell you how the types make others hate them. Or in other words: The annoying trait of each type. 

ENTJ: being SO controlling

Once an ENTJ is in charge on leading something, their nature will be awaken and nothing shall run without his supervision and his command. ENTJs are good leaders indeed, but they sometimes force many things to be done JUST by their way.

INTJ: showing no interest on people

Earphones, mobile phone, a couple of freezing eyes and expressionless face is INTJs starter kit especially during the time they spend in crowds. The mobile phone can be replaced by books, video game handheld, magazines, newspapers, or anything that can help them avoiding any possible interaction to other human-beings. This is why most people think INTJs are unfriendly. Well, they are, some of them.

ENTP: having level 0 commitment (Laziness level: over 9000)

I am mocking myself by writing this but this is sadly true. ENTP might be one of some types with the most brilliant ideas and insights. However, to execute the amazing concepts in their mind is something that they always struggle to do. There are three types of ENTPs: The one who is lazy to start, the one who stops not so long after their first day, or the worst: BOTH OF THE TYPES COMBINED. Thus, if someday I stop writing, I probably need someone slapping me very hard and scolding me for being not committed.

INTP: exploring their thoughts and finally getting lost in it most of the time

Being thoughtful is very good but being thoughtful and ignoring everyone is annoying. However, that’s what INTP is very good at: ignoring people by interacting with their own mind. If you’ve watched Inside Out, you might be familiar with Joy, Anger, Disgust, Sadness and Fear. Regarding to my Disney reference and INTP’s ability in getting lost in thought as deep as they wish until they forgot their surrounding, I personally think that INTP is the only type that can directly interact with those emotion-based personas if they were real. 

ENFP: cannot stop talking

ENFPs are people you can talk about anything with, especially if you maintain good friendship with them. However, there is one problem: they find it difficult to stop talking to people they find interesting, friendly, nice, or shortly: their types. ENFPs’ curiosity and their ability to adapt to new topics during conversations are interesting and annoying at the same time. Well, you know, some quiet fellows like the INTJs, ISTJs, or INFJs find ENFPs too chatty.

INFP: cannot decide what they actually want

This includes what to eat, what to have, what to play, what to do to spend holiday, where to go to buy something, and many others. INFPs are amazing listener who often come up with good advice for other people but they often find difficulties in deciding what’s best for them. This trait sometimes becomes annoying since people with this type finally regret their own decision or choice.

ENFJ: very very sensitive

There are two ‘very’ on the subtitle and I mean it. ENFJs, as the others with strong or even dominant Fe, are very considerate and tend to put the needs of others before their own. However, this often makes them to overthink about something they should not even think about, like the mistakes of others, problems that aren’t theirs but they cannot fix, or indifference of others. They will end up blaming themselves which will make the others uneasy.

INFJ: being so quiet (not in the right time)

Similar to INFPs, INFJs are good listener. More than just that, they are very sensible and able to relate the feeling of others quite well. However, some INFJs listen attentively without making appropriate responses. They are very good at calming you down by saying comforting words like: I feel you, everything will be better soon, pain comes before ease, and so forth. However, sometimes you need more than just that. People need their point of view as well as they need to be soothed. Thus, It makes them get an impression of not ready for sharing their advice, thoughts or suggestions.

ESTP: contradicting themselves (e.g. friendly yet insensitive)

Being able to socialize with anyone, even strangers, is one of many traits ESTPs good at. They are known to be very friendly and having them around will surely be fun. However, they tend to focus on having fun and being sociable without considering the situation, the feeling and also the condition around them. Should someone feels bad because of their words or their actions, they will deny that they have done something wrong.

ISTP: thinking hard to improvise everything, making themselves look ungrateful

ISTPs always look for something better. Their happiness won’t last very long unless they get better, or they get the things they have improvised, continuously. This is actually positive trait which will help ISTPs to develop themselves. However, sometimes they overdo it and unconsciously create an impression of ungratefulness.

ESTJ: too dependent on facts and structures

Factual information is ESTJs’ primary need during their time debating, essay writing, or whatever it is. Even if an ESTJ read this write up, (s)he will question me about where in the hell did I gather the data and finally stops reading before (s)he even reaches this part. Being accurately well-informed is very important but ESTJs tend to kill their own creative thinking ability by being so text-book oriented. They will not accept anything that is only based on personal perspective and counter your argument if you cannot justify some facts with it. More than that, some ESTJs are people who will come up with the recording of your voice or the short clip of your video when you (ESTP especially) deny what you have said or done. 

ISTJ: being overly perfectionist

If you have a friend who got 95 out of 100 on a test said that he was disappointed with his result, that annoying smartass is probably an ISTJ. It might sound similar to ISTP but they are different. Let’s say there are two fellows who got the same score (95) on a test. Here is the thing:

ISTP: “I did well and I am happy with this. But after all, I can still improvise to get more next time.”

ISTJ: “My target was 100. This is humiliating.” 

See? Which one is more annoying?

ESFP: avoiding conflict too often

INFPs might hate conflict but they will face it if it is a must while ESFPs will try anything to avoid conflicts and change their focus immediately. This will put them in trouble since in group or society, this trait will be seen as ignorance and irresponsible. More than that, ESFPs will create huge problems by avoiding each of the smaller ones.

ISFP: overly competitive

Supported by their curiosity, passionate and also their elusive nature, ISFPs are very competitive and in the negative sense, they sometimes overdo it by forgetting their real purpose for short-term glory. That’s how it risks themselves. Here’s how it annoys us: there was normal math exam a week ago and today is the announcement, you just want to pass, but this ISFP fella declares his/her victory by getting higher score than you.

ESFJ: thinking they always know what’s best

Mom knows best. Is she? Mostly yes but not all the time, isn’t it?  This is the problem of ESFJs, they try to relate to everyone’s needs and problems and then figuring out what’s best for everyone. Most of the times, it works. But in some cases, being so mother-like is annoying especially if it is combined with temper tantrum and ten pages of speech-like scolding.

ISFJ: overly paranoid= being so gloomy

Let me tell you how it works on ISFJs: they tend to take things personally; they overload themselves with burden of others and also theirs, they repress their feeling. All of these lead to paranoia and insecurity that makes them stressed and looks gloomy during their bad time. Sadly, people who get used to know ISFJs as the protectors, the listeners and also the healers will not tolerate this and assume them as annoyingly gloomy entity.

That’s all. May the father of understanding guide us.

Picture credit: Annoying